Sunday, May 14, 2006

Happy Martyr's Day!

Before I rant, let me say that I had a great Mother's Day weekend, with everything I wanted. My son and I got season passes to the local amusement park so we can spend the whole summer making ourselves sick on our beloved Tilt-A-Whirl, and my husband (the only person in our house capable of cooking anything edible) prepared a fantastic plate of eggs on toast, England-style, which was served to me in bed with some lovely flowers. Thanks, guys--I love you!

I don't hate Mother's Day; it's a nice thing.

What I do hate are the ghastly emails I get this time of year--you know the ones I mean, patronizing claptrap like "Here's to all the mothers" followed by a depressing list of dozens of "womanly" chores, celebrating the enslavement and martyrdom of women. They make me CRAZY, these emails. I don't live, thank the goddess, in an environment where duties are gender-specific or unfairly distributed, but I know plenty of women do, and the whole idea of normalizing inequity by praising the screwed for their sacrifice and inculcating them to self-identify as silent sufferers is vile to me.

And it's ALWAYS women who send this bullshit around to each other, like a tiny bandage for a gaping wound, a desperately, falsely cheerful "We may be leaving the best years of our lives behind working ourselves into early graves, but see how special and appreciated we are for it!" If we can't have political power at least we can harness the power of martyrdom and guilt? No.

I understand the spirit in which many women embrace these emails, sort of, but I can't agree with it. They're just another way of fetishizing us, and there's plenty of that to go around already, thanks.


At 10:37 AM, Blogger Tense Teacher said...

I work with those women...All they do is complain about the fact that their husbands don't do shit around the house, and yet they don't do anything about changing that. There is no way I would have married a man who thought that keeping house and taking care of the children is a woman's job.
Happy Mother's Day.

At 11:06 AM, Blogger Shell said...

Back at you, sister!

(Also: Is it summer yet?)

At 2:24 PM, Blogger Shell said...

Oh--tense teacher I LOVE your new blog design! I can't figure out how to leave comments, though. Am I missing it?

At 8:20 PM, Blogger Tense Teacher said...

The designer is working on that.

At 9:43 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

Happy Mother's Day m'dear!

At 1:15 PM, Blogger NuggetMaven said...

I have a strict anti-glurge policy. Those type of emails fall into that catagory, IMHO.

What some folks fail to comprehend by sending out that clap-trap IS, that not everyone has a/the same rose colored view of their mothers and are struggling with abuse or conflicted relationships with their mothers.

I have the same view of glurgey emails that:

Spread hatred under the guise of patriotism (If I get that blased EID STAMP email ONE MORE TIME, I'll go thermonuclear, I swear!!); as well as...

Spread hatred under the guise of Christianity.


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